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1 朝聖者的生命行旅建道神學院 2018 年 8 月 18 日 1

2 與你同行朝聖者從心理輔導角度認識今天信徒的生命旅程

3 劉佩婷美國維真大學哲學博士美國註冊家庭治療師建道神學院輔導系主任

4 A pilgrim (from the Latin peregrinus) is a traveler (literally one who has come from afar) who is on a journey to a holy place. A person who journeys to a sacred place for religious reasons a person traveling to a place of particular personal interest; Literally means a person regarded as journeying through life; 朝聖者是一個人在旅程中, 為個人宗教信仰的緣故, 向着一個地方去, 這個目的地是他個人認為很重要神聖的地方

5 In the spiritual literature of Christianity, the concept of pilgrim and pilgrimage may refer to the experience of life in the world (considered as a period of exile) or to the inner path of the spiritual aspirant from a state of wretchedness to a state of beatitude. 在基督教的文學中, 朝聖者和朝聖之旅是指屬世的生命經驗或屬靈上有抱負的人, 由不幸悲慘的狀況走到聖經中所記載八福的內在過程

6 靠你有力量心中想往錫安大道的這人便為有福

7 他們經過流淚谷叫這谷變為泉源之地. 並有秋雨之福蓋滿了全谷

8 他們行走力上加力各人到錫安朝見神詩 84:5-7

9 God never said that the journey would be easy, but He did say that the arrival would be worthwhile Max Lucado 短暫 : 相聚分離旅程 : 有差異要適應調整 : 情感身份過程中的屬靈意義

10 人生在世必遇患難如同星火飛騰 10

11 朝聖者必遇的困苦 Existential sufferings 失去與哀傷 grief and loss 孤獨與憂鬱 Loneliness and depression 恐懼與焦慮 Fear and anxiety 11

12 哀傷 GRIEF 哀傷是失去了一樣重要的東西的正常反應 the natural reaction to loss of a loved one.

13 失去了摰愛的親友失去了愛的機會

14 失去與父母連繋的機會失去了一個完整的家

15 哀傷不是病, 是一個轉變的機會, 一個重整的過程 GRIEF IS NOT A DISEASE. IT S A PROCESS OF TRANSFORMATION AND ADJUSTMENT.

16 哀傷的旋渦 16

17 每一次失去都是一個給朝聖者選擇的機會.

18 孤獨和憂鬱

19 Existential Depression is a depression that arises when an individual confronts certain basic issues of existence: Death, Freedom, Isolation and Meaninglessness.

21 空巢期 : 祝福? 咒詛? Empty Nest A blessings or curse? 21

22 中年危機 22

24 被拋棄 Abandonment 被拒絕 Rejection

25 恐懼與焦慮 Existential anxiety

27 怕犯錯, 怕被譴責 Christians present a general theological worldview that often correlates with significant anxiety (Mercer, 2015). Anxiety about guilt and condemnation involves perceived threats to one s moral and ethical identity (Weems et al., 2004).

28 無聊厭倦冷淡空虛無意義 feelings of boredom, apathy and emptiness Lack of meaning Psychological distress

29 沒有意義的存在尋找人生的意義 A distinctly human characteristic is the struggle for a sense of significance and purpose in life. Meaninglessness in life can lead to emptiness and hollowness; an existential vacuum

30 經驗回避 (experiential avoidance) 一些人不願意應對負面的情緒感受負面的思想和不舒服的身體知覺, 並逃避那些引發起這些經驗的處境 / 情況 Those people who are unwilling to cope with negative feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations; and may attempt to avoid situations that elicit these experiences; (Nam, 2016)

31 我自己的感覺讓我感到害怕我擔心無法控制自己的憂慮和感受情緒給我的生活帶來問題好像大多數人都能夠比我更好地處理自己的生活 (Zhang et al., 2014)

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33 憤怒冰山羞愧感恥辱惱怒不滿意羨慕精疲力竭懊悔內疚的 33

34 人生中的存在模式 : 忘記了自己的存在將自己送給這個世界, 將自己完全融入在每天的生活中 ; 拼命地工作忘記了我是我自己生命的作者表面平靜被逼無得揀逃避選擇 (Yalom, 1998) 34

35 我一個人不可行的劇本我是無助的 The Helpless Self-Concept 渴望保護, 害怕被拋棄 Desire for Protection and Fear of Abandonment 以他人為中心的行為表現 Other- Centered Behavior 不能與自己聯繫 Disconnection from self 35

36 個人的獨特 PERSONAL SPECIALNESS 適應性, 應對孤獨自覺渺小, 應對這個世界的複雜父母的不足 36

37 只能靠自己劇本逃避他人的評價需要距離, 害怕被入侵 Desire for Distance and Fear of Intrusion 建立防護罩的行為 Shell-Building Behavior 缺乏信任 A lack of trust 未能與他人聯繫 Disconnection from Others 37

38 人生中的存在模式 : 專注留意自己的存在留意自己的存在實體物質的我 (the empirical and material) 超越實體以外的我 ( 心思意念和靈魂 mind and soul) 為自己的存在負責任 ; 心理學用 authenticity 真實可靠的存在擁抱自己的可能性和限制 (Yalom, 1998) 38

39 由一個模式轉到另一個模式靠默想? 咬緊牙關? 下定決心? 一些不能逆轉不能補救的緊急事情 / 經驗撞擊我們, 叫我們猛然醒悟過來 39

40 朝聖之旅苦難與恩典的相遇 40

41 豐盛的生命豐盛就在基督耶穌裏我們被這個充滿萬有者所充滿充滿內在的力量充足的包容和愛心

42 勇氣 COURAGE

44 我學習了一件事當悲傷來探訪我的時候, 我可以說的話就是我看見你我會花一些時間與它一起, 然後說聲再見我不會推走它我擁有它正因為我擁有它, 我放它走

45 群體 COMMUNITY 陪伴 company

46 尋找人生的意義 THE SEARCH FOR MEANING

47 當你找到當中的意義, 苦難不再是苦難例如 : 犧牲的意義 (Victor Frankl)

48 尋找人生的意義 The Search for Meaning 透過提問和拋棄舊的價值觀 Meaning can be searched through questioning and discarding old values; 意義是間接地尋找的 ; 是全情投入生活的副產品 Meaning must be pursued obliquely or as a byproduct of engagement

49 全情投入的生活

50 一宿雖然有哭泣早晨便必歡呼

51 放過過去的自己善待現在的自己期待將來的自己 51

52 詩 16:11 你必將生命的道路指示我. 在你面前有滿足的喜樂. 在你右手中有永遠的福樂

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54 我仍要尋求. 就是一生一世住在耶和華的殿中瞻仰他的榮美在他的殿裡求問 ( 詩 27:4)

55 Reference Shek, D. T. L., Hong, E. W. & Cheung, M. Y. P. (1987). The Purpose In Life Questionnaire in a Chinese context. The Journal of Psychology, 121(1), Schulenberg, S. E., Schnetzer, L. W. & Buchanan, E. M. (2011). The Purpose in Life Test-Short Form: Development and Psychometric Support. Journal of Happiness Studies, DOI /s Thakur, K. & Basu, S. (2010). A Probe of Existential Meaning in Depression. SIS Journal of Projective Psychology and Mental Health, 17, Macgregor, C. (2012). Sartre, Minkowski and Depression. Existential Analysis, 23(1), Wenger, S. (2011). Religiosity in relation to depression and well-being among adolescents a comparison of findings among the Anglo-Saxon population and findings among Austrian high school students. Mental Health, Religion & Culture, 14(6), Yalom, I. D. (1998). The Yalom Reader: Selections from the Work of a Master Therapist and Storyteller. US: Basic Books.

56 參考資料 : DiPierro, M., Fite, P. J. & Johnson-Motoyama, M. (2018). The role of religion and spirituality in the association between hope and anxiety in a sample of Latino youth. Child Youth Care Forum, 47, Nam, I. (2016). Suicide bereavement and complicated grief: Experiential avoidance as a mediating mechanism. Journal of Loss and Trauma, 21(4), Mercer, C. (2015). Finding freedom abroad: working conservative Christian students in study abroad programs. Teaching, Theology & Religion, 18(1), Weems, C. F., Costa, N. M., Dehon, C. & Berman, S. L. (2004). Paul Tillich s Theory of Existential Anxiety: A preliminary conceptual and empirical examination. Anxiety, Stress and Coping, 17(4), Zhang, J., Sun, L., Conwell, Y., Qin, P., Jia, C. X., Xiao, S. & Tu, X. M. (2015). Suicides and medically serious attempters are of the same population in Chinese rural young adults. Journal of Affective Disorders, 176,

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